Wednesday, June 20, 2007
okay, lets look at the problem.
1stly : you are a girl.
2ndly: you are only 16.
3rdly: we have a mother that isn't educated.
okay, you are a girl you just have to accept it that you are more "vulnerable" and obviously, parents tend to be more worried. I didnt have problem going out the whole day the whole night when i was 14, because i am a guy. you can say this is sexism or what, but this is the norm for many families out there.
and you are only 16. Even at 18, your dear mummy can call the police to throw you into girls home. and yes, at 16, you are still a kid. Wait for 21. and it is also not a matter about whether you are mature or not.
You should know by now the way she does things. I totally agree that she is brainless a lot of times, but what can you do? Even though you may seemed to be close to her, but do you think you are really close? As a family, we are definitely a group of failures, we dont communicate. and i do not want to push the blame to them as well, if there's anything to change, we change ourselves first, if there's anything to compromise, we should give in first. Ultimately, they have the invulnerability as parents.
Like i told you last night, the issue about freedom is qualitative, not quantitative.
It doesn't really matter if you go out once, twice or none. It is whether you CAN go or NOT.
It doesn't really matter if you go out for 1 hour 2 hour or 3 hour, the point is, you are out.
Freedom is relative, to her, she has already given you alot of freedom. but to you, it is not.
It is up to you how you want to view it. frankly, i have heard cases much worse than yours.
the thing is, because of the 3 reasons above, unless you break away from those restrictions, you just got to work around it. Theoretically, you have your freedom at 21, maybe if you are lucky, at 18?
And if you are talking about trust, first, trust her that she will give you back your freedom someday. Then try to earn some trust from her? like being "guai", do well in studies, and respectful.
And you always lie. It is not as if she doesnt know you are lying, i've told you before.
Will you trust someone that lies?
It is not that i dont want to side you, but you have to be more sensible already.
keruirocks.
7:35 AM
